Couples Therapy in Hove
A supportive space to reconnect and understand each other
Every relationship has its own story and every couple faces challenges along the way. Having a calm, supportive space to talk things through together can make all the difference.
Considering relationship counselling may feel like a huge and courageous step to take, and it is. However, many couples will experience relationship problems at some point, and having someone to help you along the way can make all the difference. People seek help for many different reasons: some people come at a time of crisis in their lives such as an affair or illness; others for long-standing issues relating to sexual intimacy, parenting, infertility, or past trauma, to name a few. Emotionally Focused Therapy can help.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
EFT is acknowledged as one of the most thoroughly researched, clearly defined, and empirically validated approaches in the field of couple therapy. This approach sees emotional closeness, safety and intimacy as being essential and at the core of a loving and meaningful relationship. EFT has been shown to be an effective approach for couples coping with relationship distress across a range of issues, across various cultures, with traditional and non-traditional families, and with LGBTQ+ relationships.
How do I work?
As an EFT therapist, my approach is collaborative in helping you as a couple to identify the repeated patterns of conflict in your relationship, that create distance and disconnection between you. I work with you to gain a deeper understanding of the difficult emotions you may be experiencing as a result. My goal is to support you both to make sense of these patterns and reactions which have led to feelings of disconnection between you both, and then to safely share your experiences and difficult emotions, re-establishing safety and security and the bond between you both.
Through the counselling sessions you will learn together how to:
Address stuck patterns and negative cycles in your relationship
Make sense of your own emotions and those of your partner
Learn more about your own and your partner's inner world and emotional needs
Develop deeper understanding, closeness and safety in the relationship
Of course counselling isn't a magic remedy. Whilst a counsellor's role is to facilitate safety, healing and change, it requires that you are both willing to change and committed to working on yourself and your relationship.
How many sessions will we need?
During your first session we will discuss the number of sessions you may wish to have. If you want to come short-term then we can agree a specific number of sessions and a realistic goal to work on. Some people prefer an open-ended arrangement where they can finish when they feel they have completed the work. I always review on a regular basis what we are working on and how therapy is helping you.
If you’d like to find out more or arrange an initial call, you’re very welcome to get in touch.
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Your first step
Taking the first step towards therapy can feel daunting. In an introductory 20 minute, non-obligatory call, we’ll explore what’s bringing you to therapy and what you hope to change. If we both agree that we are the right fit to work together, we’ll then decide the pace and approach that would suit you best.
My practice is based in central Hove, easily accessible from Brighton and surrounding areas.
I offer weekday appointments, both in person and online.